A Life Plan

Jealousy is an ugly vice. Jealousy is a negative trait and can ruin the relationship it contaminates. If for some reason you lean in that direction you need to learn how to overcome jealousy before your relationship falls victim to the green eyed monster.

I’ve been researching jealousy some and I’ve found good advice on web-pages like How to Overcome Jealousy. Here’s some of what I’ve learned.

To begin, why do you think your jealous? What are your excuses? You have to know yourself before you can make progress.

No one has to be jealous. Jealousy is a choice. Being jealous is like other ways of being in the world - It’s under our control. It may be more comfortable to blame external circumstances for the way you are, but that’s an immature response. An adult accepts control of their response to life circumstances.

There many reasons a person may choose to experience jealousy. For many people, it’s insecurity.

Related to that is a fear of being cheated on. Responding to that fear with jealousy is like to have the opposite of the desired effect. it will threaten relationship rather than protect.

Some people use jealous demands as a way to control their partner. It’s a power trip. it’s not hard to imagine how this could easily threaten the relationship.

It is possible to make different choices. Just because we’ve behaved one way in the past doesn’t mean we need to continue to do so. Which you think is most likely to get a positive result - acting in a controlling, jealous manner or approach and your partner with love trust and respect?

Would you rather have someone who wanted to come home rather than someone who came home because of some sense of obligation? Someone who responds to their partner’s jealous demands eventually comes to resent. I think you can see how this creates the opposite of what jealous person desires.

Since intimate relationships are very complex and emotionally charged, it’s not surprising we have difficulty with them. Part of the problem is that none of us are taught specifically how to deal with relationships as we grow up. Were left to our own devices and it shows.

With the information resources available today it doesn’t have to be that way.

A good overall site I found was The Relationship Fix.

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