A Life Plan

In a perfect world, the couple would live happily ever after when they say “I do”. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world. And usually, when the wedding day is done, trouble starts to happen.

Whatever the cause, a couple can go from a blissful relationship, to a relationship that is cold and bitter.

In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.

Arguments, disagreements, and fights do happen.  It is bound to happen in most marriages.But there is a time when the couple needs to look at whether or not this is normal or part of everyday life.  Or if is too much and time to seek help.

Because a problem in a marriage, left unchecked, could one day lead to a horrible divorce.

So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling San Diego is needed.

The first sign is bickering, do you guys bicker a lot?Do insignificant things cause arguments? Allthough seemingly no big deal, this could be the beginning of trouble starting.

Second, do you guys find it hard to say anything nice about each other? This shows you that you two are holding contempt for each other and that is not beneficial.

A third thing is do you find that your level of respect for each other is not there?In every relationship, the couple must respect each other.

Fourth sign, is there a loss of intimacy with each other?This isn’t just talking about sex, although sex is a part of it.Does is seem like the two of you aren’t as close as you once were?

Fifth, are you happier when your spouse is not around?  This is  not a good sign and is the beginning of the separation.

Sixth thing to look at have you lost trust of one another? One of the most important things for a married couple is trust.  When you are going to live and share your most intimate moments there has to be trust.

Finally, has there been some infidelity with one of you?To most it seems simple enough and obvious.  But sometimes when this happens, couples could just try to ignore it rather than deal with it.

Of course there are plenty of other signs.  But these are some big ones when deciding if it is time to seek a marriage counselor in San Diego. 

If you see yourself in these circumstances, and to save your marriage is what you desire.You have to look for professional advice so you can find a way to work out these issues.

Often times, a third viewpoint can help immensely and that is where a family counselor can help.