A Life Plan

When you want to get your ex back, there are some definite things to avoid doing.  Learning what not to do can help you get back with your ex without unnecessary delays.  You can learn more about resolving relationship conflict here.

One thing you should definitely not do is try to argue with your mate to take you back. “You don’t understand what really happened, you’re not seeing it my way, you’re just being negative…”

Arguing may seem like your best choice, but it isn’t.  Arguing may have been the reason you broke up.  More of it isn’t going to bring them back.  You argue and they’ll just believe they did well to leave you.

Instead of arguing, do something much better.  Become a good listener.  When you talk to your ex, let them vent, let them get things off their chest, try to make them right and make them feel heard and understood.  This will make a very positive impression on them, that you care enough to truly listen.

Another mistake is to stalk them.  Stalking happens in many ways.  Phoning them ten times a day is phone stalking.  Texting them is text stalking.  Following them around and sitting outside their house is physical stalking.  It is actually illegal!  You can learn more about resolving relationship conflict specfics here.

Doing phone stalking can be frightening for your mate.  You show up as desperate and obsessive, which again can confirm that they made the right choice in dumping you.

Now, obsessing on your ex is fairly natural.  Wanting to stalk them is almost normal.  But do this instead:  confide in a close friend how much you miss your ex and wonder what they are doing.  Just don’t let your ex know you are obsessing on them.

So instead of arguing with your ex to try to convince them to come back to you, learn some relationship intelligence that can get them back in your arms within days, sometimes hours.  You can get a free course on Get Your Ex Back In Hours here.